Here’s an excerpt from my most recent blog post. You can find it in its entirety on my new website www.thealohalounge.com.
I hate goodbyes…they seriously suck. Whether it’s to a loved one, a job (well sometimes that’s easy), a place or a home, goodbyes are zero fun. For the past month I’ve been saying goodbye to many of my belongings as I prepare our home to be put on the market. To say this has been difficult would be an understatement.
I never really thought of myself as a hoarder but as I find myself going through pretty much every single thing I own, I have to say that maybe I sort of am. Shelly Bennett, The Hoarder. In our basement there are things that I haven’t used or wanted for years. But they were expensive and so I kept them. In my cupboards are dishes and glassware who’s usefulness, it seems, is nothing more than collecting dust. But they are pretty and so I kept them. In my closets are stacks of artwork and papers from when my girls were young. I haven’t looked at them since I put them there but I kept them because, well because they were given to me by two people who literally own my heart.
Here is an excerpt from my most recent blog post. I’ve switched formats so please subscribe to my new blog at www.thealohalounge.com Mahalo nui!
Perception is not truth. Let’s just get clear on that right now. If what we see, hear, feel, smell, taste and touch were all there is, than the world would be flat, dogs would only be able to hear what we hear and experiences would appear the same to each of us. The truth is that there is more to any situation than our senses can perceive. Our thoughts, feelings and beliefs color everything that happens to us. When we are mindful of this, it can open up a whole new world and literally change our lives.
Last weekend I learned about a tragedy that had befallen a certain family. I don’t know this family personally although I’ve heard the mother speak at an event once and I follow her on Instagram. I have thought about this woman every day since hearing about what happened and my heart breaks for her. And this tragedy has got me thinking why… why do horrible things happen to some people? And why are others spared?
Mahalo for your support and aloha. I look forward to communicating and sharing with you in the future!
My husband Mike and I are attending a class on Native Hawaiian healing, or Lā’au Lapa’au. The theme of the class is cleansing. This has got me thinking about cleansing. While the class is focused on cleansing the physical body, I’ve been thinking about cleansing some other things. My home for one, but really I’ve been thinking about cleansing my negative thoughts.
I don’t know about you but I have been my own worst enemy. I have big dreams, I work hard, I love people hard and I take risks. But then I tend to have these really horrible thoughts. For example, I spent several hours writing my last blog post (First Step). As I got ready to publish it, the thoughts that went through my head went something like this: ” No one is going to read this.” ” This isn’t good enough.” “There are a billion other blogs that are better than mine. Why do I do this? Who do I think I am?”
That is so fucked up.
I know in my heart that I am no better or worse than anyone else. But, for some reason, I tend to beat myself up. And I need to stop that shit right now. If you’re anything like me, than you need to stop beating yourself up too. It is time for a mind cleanse. For the next several days I am going to really pay attention to my thinking. Every time I have a negative thought about myself I am going to sweep that crap right out of my mind and replace it with something positive: something I’m good at, something that I’m grateful for, etc. I am going to focus on lifting myself up because, let’s face it, most of us, myself included, have spent the majority of our lives tearing ourselves down.
When you want to build something, you have to do it one stone at a time, one, shovel-full at a time, one step at a time. This week, I am going to take the first step of building my authentic self one thought at a time.
Today we have a post by guest blogger Laura Old, a resident of Peachtree City, GA and member of our oily team, The Aloha Droppers.
Hot flashes aside, Summer seems such a happy fun-filled time to me. Everyone has different ideas as to the perfect pursuits – some crave adventure, exploring, adrenalin rushes; others simply wish to drift away, serenely relaxing on the beach, by the lake, wherever.
It’s impossible to think of Summer without citrus. How can you enjoy a meal without some form of it included – orange juice, lemonade or limeade, Citrus Fruit Salad, simple orange sections to clear your palate after dinner….
A favorite Diffuser Recipe is Heavenly Citrus. Each oil has benefits!
Grapefruit Essential Oil inhaled helps overcome things like hangovers (!), aching heads and blue moods. It is an appetite suppressant, air freshener, even a diuretic! It has antibiotic properties, supports endocrine function, assists in digestion.
Orange Essential Oil benefits include promoting feeling of happiness and warmth, elimination of toxins in the body, stimulating lymphatic action to promote balance in water processes, improving digestion, repelling insects!
Lemon Essential Oil has antioxidant, anti-inflammatory and free-radical quenching properties, and is known to fight respiratory infections, coughs, sore throat, to lower blood pressure and promote healthy blood circulation, to detoxify your body, inhibit inflammation, soothe acidity and heartburn by balancing stomach pH level and more.
Bergamot Essential Oil boasts powerful antibacterial, analgesic, antiseptic, antispasmodic and soothing effects. It helps reduce anxiety and stress, speed up healing process for cold sores and mouth ulcers, helps prevent or improve skin conditions from fungal infections.
Put all this in your diffuser and WOW, what a powerful combination of goodness! Best of all, it smells amazing and just plain makes you feel good all over! Try it out, feeling confident that positive molecules are clearing your air and helping your body and soul. Then come back here and make a comment on how you responded to this combination – we’d love to hear from you.
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All information relevant to properties of the essential oils mentioned found on www.mercola.com.
DISCLAIMER: The information here is based upon my research and personal use of Young Living essential oils. The statements made and the products mentioned on this website have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration and are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.
How we feel in our bodies is important because our bodies are the vehicle for how we perceive the world. They house our spirits. Imagine for a moment, that you no longer have your five senses. You can no longer smell, touch, taste hear or see anything. What are you without these things? Without your physical perceptions, what is left? Everything that we know and believe is based on something that we’ve perceived though our senses. Are we just the sensory images that we process?
Clearly we are more than just physical beings. We have minds with the ability to create as well as take in and process information. We have spirits that can connect to others and to God. We have feelings. We have ways of expressing who we are. We have hopes and dreams. We have desires. None of these things are physical however we need our physical bodies to express these things. How we feel in our bodies affects everything else about us…I have a friend who insists that she’s getting so old and worn out that soon she’ll just be an eyeball in a jar. Our physical self matters.
How are you feeling in your body right now? Do you have physical pain? Are you tired, cranky, angry, sad? Are you stressed out? Whenever I teach a class on healthy living, pretty much everyone has at least one of these things going on. And that’s just sad. I don’t want life to be like that for you, or me, or anyone else. So let’s do something about it-one small thing at a time. Starting now. Here’s your first step. It’s small and it’s easy…baby steps are important, right? Are you ready…
Drink more water.
I’m not going to go into detail about why you need to drink more water. You know and I know that water’s important. If you want to know all the medical details about why we need to drink water than GTS (Google That Shit). Just drink a lot more water (filtered water is always a good idea). Get all those cells in your body plumped up and functioning properly. Something I do that encourages me to drink more water is to add some fresh fruit along with a couple of drops of Young Living Lemon or Lime Vitality essential oil and a dropper full of liquid organic Stevia extract. I love the refreshing taste and citrus oils have some cleansing and detoxifying properties as well. To learn more or to order click here.
I got so thirsty writing this that I had to hop up and grab myself a glass of water. I’m already feeling better and I know you will be too. This is just the first step of many that I’m planning on sharing with you so be sure to follow along. I’m so excited to be going on this journey with you… the path to wellness is more fun when you travel with others.
What does wellness mean to you? If you’re like many people, you believe that wellness is being fit; that is, you see wellness as needing to go to the gym and work out and run marathons and be buff and look good in your bathing suit. If that’s the case, I’ve got news for you…wellness is not the same as fitness. You can be fit and still be extremely unwell. You can also be well but not be fit. They are not the same thing.
Wellness is making choices that lead to a healthy and fulfilling life. To me wellness means feeling good in your own body, and with who you are. It encompasses your mind, body, spirit and emotions. It can also include your community and family; it is difficult to find wellness when you live in a family or community that is chaotic and unhealthy. Wellness is similar to peace in that it is freedom from disruption within your body, mind or spirit. Wellness means that everything in your life is working harmoniously together for the good of your higher self.
I think most of us spend a good portion of our lives seeking this kind of wellness. And if we don’t, we end up desperately searching for it after being diagnosed with some type of catastrophic illness. I’m a lifer when it comes to learning about and seeking wellness- I remember being unusually curious about it at an early age. I grew up on a small farm where my mom had many gardens. One of these gardens was an herb garden and I remember her pointing out different plants to me and telling me about the ways people used to use the plants for healing. I began reading books about herbal medicine when I was in middle school and books about Earth healing and Wiccan spirituality when I was in college. To me it made such complete sense that people would use nature to bring their bodies, minds and spirits back into balance.
I fell away from these types of healing when I got married and started a family because, although I knew that things like herbal medicine, Wicca and Earth healing are inherently good, they were misunderstood and shunned by the people who I was around at the time (and continue to be so by many people). But everything comes full circle in life. The things that we are drawn to as children are often things that we are called to teach about later in our lives. I now have a business teaching people about using essential oils as natural tools to support wellness and I often find myself presented with new opportunities to learn about other forms of natural healing. Life is so interesting!
My husband and I were recently invited to participate in a series of classes that teach about Lā’au Lapa’au, or traditional Native Hawaiian healing. The class has just begun I am already inspired to learn, write and share about wellness and healing. To me, being a part of that class is just a reminder from The Universe that learning and sharing about wellness is something I’m meant to do. I hope that you will join me here at The Aloha Lounge over the next several weeks as I share with you some of what I’ve learned and am continuing to learn about wellness. It is my prayer that the practices I share with you here, will help to transform your life and will put you on a path towards health and wellness. I look forward to journeying along this path with you.
It was recently brought to my attention that Detroit is now “cool.” The poster child for come back cities, Detroit is going through a renaissance. Money is literally being pumped into the city at mind blowing rates and it is nearly impossible to keep up with all the new projects, restaurants and retail locations popping up on a daily basis.
But it wasn’t always “cool” to be from Detroit. For most of my life I watched people cringe whenever they talked about Detroit. Many suburban residents were terrified to go anywhere near the city and most of them, when asked where they were from when visiting other places, would give their suburban town name rather than just saying they were from Detroit- even though they lived within 10 miles of the city. They were too embarrassed to say they were from Detroit even though it would have clarified things geographically to people they would most likely never see again.
I’ve always known that Detroit was cool. My first blog, Little Miss Detroit, was dedicated to promoting the parts of Detroit that lived on despite what the rest of the world thought of our city. Detroit is and always has been a place of grit, vision and hope. It is not being reborn, regardless of what some might say, because it was never dead. I know this because I have been a part of Detroit my entire life. I was born in 1967, the year of the 12th Street riots and the beginning of white flight from the city; My parents packed up our house on Joy Rd and Southfield and moved to the suburbs when I was four-years-old; I watched as buildings were boarded up and vandalized and trash blew down the streets like tumbleweeds. And I volunteered in soup kitchens and shopping programs for elderly Detroit residents and blogged about people starting businesses and gardens and art projects while other suburbanites would repeatedly check the locks on their car doors anytime they were forced to cross the border into Detroit.
One of the things that I have always loved about Detroit is that it seems to breed creativity. At first the creativity was born from necessity- people started gardens and bakeries because all of the major grocery chains pulled their stores out of the city. They started schools and food banks and art installations because the government failed to provided adequate services for the people. Now that things are changing, creative people are coming to Detroit for different reasons. Detroit is one of the only large cities that is still affordable and creative types are coming in droves to set up shop. They are starting community letterpress studios and distilleries and non-profits. They are opening restaurants and retail stores and chocolate shops. I meet these creative entrepreneurs all the time and it nearly makes me cry to see what they are doing and the impact they are having on others and their communities. These are the people that make and have always made Detroit cool. Everyone should be able to live in a place that lets them have a chance to live their purpose and succeed-not just people with money. If you have and idea and a dream you should be able to make that happen. We all need to support these people and places-whether they are in Detroit or Honolulu or anywhere else- and in doing so make the world a better place.
Here are some places worth supporting in Detroit…
Detroit Food Academy
A non-profit that works to give young entrepreneurs (ages 13-24) self-directed experiences and skills in the food industry. From learning how to cook to taking their artisanal products to market, they are growing and educating our next generation of community leaders. Samira Ray is a student at DFA. She was excited and proud to talk about all that’s going on at her school. She told me that The Detroit Pop Shop is a brand that was given over to DFA when the owners left the state. Now it’s run by students such as Samira. Learn more at http://detroitfoodacademy.com
Keep Growing Detroit
A non-profit concerned with food sovereignty, KGD has programs ranging from gardening classes to free seeds to their Grown in Detroit market program. This is one of the most comprehensive, versatile and down right amazing social justice agencies that I have ever come across. I have some serious love in my heart for this place. Learn more at http://detroitagriculture.net
Avalon International Breads
This bakery opened its doors in Detroit when others were fleeing. When many saw only ruins and despair, they saw an opportunity to fill a need and be a proponent for change. Not to mention their breads are amazingly delicious! You can find them at Eastern Market on Saturday mornings or at their brick and mortar location on Willis St. in the Cass Corridor. Website: avalonbreads.net
Support places like these in Detroit, your home town, or wherever you may roam. Or better yet, live your purpose and change your own community by starting a business, non-profit or restaurant of your own. Be cool… Like Detroit.
I am privileged. I accept and admit that. Being a white, middle class, educated woman has granted me access to people, places, situations and things that others do not have access to. I have never been asked to leave somewhere or been denied a job because of how I looked. I have never known what it feels like to be hungry and not have access to food. I have always had a place to rest my head at night. I can walk into nearly every establishment and be treated as if I belong there (even if I don’t). I often take these things for granted and forget that not everyone has these same comforts and privileges.
Living in Hawaii is a bit different than what I’m used to. I am not in the majority here. I have, on occasion, felt people’s anger and hatred towards me because of my color. I have been in places and situations where I am accepted only because I am there with my husband (who is Hawaiian). I have seen, first hand what complete assholes white tourists can be and I am embarrassed sometimes, many times actually, to be white.
But just like people of color cannot change their color, I cannot change my whiteness. Despite the fact that I have always gravitated towards people who are different than me, have always had interest in learning about other cultures and have a deep love and respect for those cultures, I am still white. At least on the outside, where, to many, many people, it counts the most. And that is sad because the inside is really where it’s all at. You can look one way on the outside and be someone completely different on the inside. I have to be reminded sometimes (usually by my children) that I’m white. Which is funny. Except not really.
Many of us “whites” have lost our own cultures through the process of assimilation into the American culture. My father’s family came from Poland and France but neither the languages nor any of the traditions that my great grandparents brought with them are remembered or practiced by any member of my family. I know people whose ancestors came from the Middle East or Latin America who see themselves as white now because they can pass as white. And they want that privilege of being white. They want the country club and the big house and the access and the stuff and they don’t care what they have to give up to have it. Some even vote for politicians who create laws that oppress the people with the same racial and cultural backgrounds that they themselves have. And they don’t even realize that they are contributing to the oppression of their own people by giving up who they are to have what they have. My ancestors did this too and I am privileged because of it… but at the cost of losing where I came from and, as a result losing who I am
So yes, many times I am embarrassed to be white: When I read about the atrocities committed here in Hawaii by people who look like me I am embarrassed. When I witness first hand the damage caused to the environment here because of the selfishness and greed of people who look like me, I am embarrassed. When I see white tourists appropriating the Hawaiian culture for their photo ops or enjoyment, I am embarrassed. When I am either ignored or greeted with hostility by people of color when I attempt to speak to them I am embarrassed. I’m embarrassed by that last one but I get it. I get why some people dislike me. People who look like me have been oppressing other peoples for hundreds, if not thousands of years. People who look like me have caused the near extinction of virtually every indigenous people on the face of the Earth. People who look like me have raped this land, poisoned its people and continue to do so because of pure greed. People who look like me continue to benefit at the expense of others and many do horrific things to insure that they continue to benefit and exert their power over others.
There is good reason for me to feel embarrassed for my whiteness; I continue to experience privilege from being white and I most likely will for the rest of my life. I did nothing to earn these privileges and I can’t give them back but I can acknowledge that they exist, I can give back to my brothers and sisters of color with my time, my talents and my resources. I can be an ally to people of color in how I think, how I speak, how I vote and what I do. And I can encourage other people who look like me to do the same. So I encourage you now (whether you look like me or not) to acknowledge the privileges that you benefit from and think about what you can do to be an ally to those who don’t benefit in those same ways.
Sending you much aloha,
PS. I know this blog seems random… one post on Hawaii, then some on energy and one on privilege… I just share what I’m experiencing and if that makes me random, so be it. I hope you’re enjoying my randomness, and if you learn something along the way, that makes me happy. Namaste.
Here’s your Physics Lesson of the Day: What is Frequency?
Frequency is a measurable rate of electrical energy that is constant between two points. When there is frequency there is electromagnetic potential. We are being influenced by the magnetic action (or attraction) of the frequencies that surround us each day, and these frequencies influence our state of well-being. Everything has an electrical frequency measured in megahertz.
Remember, essential oils and oil blends with lower frequency ranges tend to work in the physical regions while essential oils with higher frequency ranges tend to work in the emotional and spiritual regions.
I’m going to give you a few oils and their frequencies today… you’re welcome.
Rose has one of the highest frequencies of essential oils. It helps bring balance and harmony with stimulation and uplifting properties that create a sense of well-being and self confidence. Intoxicating and highly romantic. It takes more than 20 lbs of rose petals to make one 5ml bottle of Young Living Rose Essential oil. That’s why most essential oils companies use solvents to extract rose oil; they can get much more “oil” from the same amount of raw material. Young Living uses steam distillation. That’s why Young Living Rose oil is so therapeutic (and why it costs more).
Awaken helps to bring about inner awareness & awakening. True understanding of one’s self is the first step toward making successful changes and desirable transitions May help to progress to your highest potential. It helps to stimulate right brain creativity and helps to balance the energy centers of the body.
I like to put this one on my crown and third eye chakras while meditating but you can put it on all of the chakras if you like!!
I don’t have the exact frequency of this baby but I’ll tell you it is one of my new favorite oils! I put this on and I feel like I can do anything!! The strange thing about it though is that when I first bought this oil, I could hardly stand the way it smelled. It sat in my oils drawer because I thought it smelled disgusting. Now I can’t get enough of it! I think this goes to show you that the oils that you need the most to help rebalance you, are sometimes the ones that you are slightly repulsed by… true story.
Anyway, Believe may help assist as you move to a higher level of awareness. It helps restore feelings of hope, making it possible to fully experience health, happiness, and d vitality. As you move past emotional setbacks and barriers, you will be able to reach your true, unlimited potential.
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