Fraud

I am a fraud

I am a fraud. On the exterior I am all love and light and namaste but on the inside there is darkness. There is self-doubt and feelings of worthlessness. There are thoughts of “I’m not good enough” ringing through my mind like church bells to mark the passing of time. The books I read talk about the power of changing your thoughts; words and thoughts hold mana, spiritual energy, that can affect your entire world. I know this is true; I’ve seen the power that changing my belief system has had on my own life, but there is still that tiny bit of darkness that grabs me by the throat at times and won’t let go.

In the book, Love Is Letting Go of Fear, Third Edition by Gerald Jampolsky, Lesson 3 in his Lessons for Personal Transformation says, ” I am never upset for the reason I think.”  The lesson is this: We think that our feelings are caused by what’s going on around us, but in fact what we see and experience is determined by the thoughts and beliefs in our mind. I think about this every time I get upset.

I’ll give you an example. Today I was upset because my business is not growing at the pace which I had anticipated. I’ve been working harder than ever and have had one of the lowest months in awhile. When I mentioned to my husband that I was feeling sad about this, I felt that he blamed me. I became even more upset and started to cry. I knew I needed some time to think so I took my dog for a walk with tears streaming down my face.

As we walked along I thought about why I was really upset. My whole life I have struggled with feeling unsupported, unworthy and alone. I suffered abuse as a child which was ignored and allowed to continue; I was in an emotionally abusive marriage where I was often left feeling unworthy, unsupported and alone; After my divorce I was a single mom and pretty much had to do everything myself. So this situation today reminded me of all that. I felt alone and unsupported. I felt the weight of the world on my shoulders and I was getting crushed beneath it. But I recognize that those situations from my past are not only different from today’s situation, but they are over. This helped me to disassociate from my current feelings of disappointment and lack of support. I decided to see things differently (Lesson 12 in the book).

So, rather than feeling unsupported I am thinking of how I can offer support to others (Lesson 1: All I give is given to myself). Rather than feeling alone I am thinking about how I can encourage team bonding. Rather than blaming myself for things I can’t control (the past, other people, etc.) I am dreaming up ways to reach out and teach and help and inspire others to have a life filled with abundance, wellness and joy. I am writing down all the things I am grateful for and all the goals I’m looking forward to achieving. I am letting go of a past that no longer serves me and living in a present where I am loved, supported and worthy. I am consciously choosing the light and letting go of the darkness.

Maybe I’m not a fraud after all. Maybe I’m just human.

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Privilege

I am privileged. I accept and admit that. Being a white, middle class, educated woman has granted me access to people, places, situations and things that others do not have access to. I have never been asked to leave somewhere or been denied a job because of how I looked. I have never known what it feels like to be hungry and not have access to food. I have always had a place to rest my head at night. I can walk into nearly every establishment and be treated as if I belong there (even if I don’t). I often take these things for granted and forget that not everyone has these same comforts and privileges.

Living in Hawaii is a bit different than what I’m used to. I am not in the majority here. I have, on occasion, felt people’s anger and hatred towards me because of my color. I have been in places and situations where I am accepted only because I am there with my husband (who is Hawaiian). I have seen, first hand what complete assholes white tourists can be and I am embarrassed sometimes, many times actually, to be white.

But just like people of color cannot change their color, I cannot change my whiteness. Despite the fact that I have always gravitated towards people who are different than me, have always had interest in learning about other cultures and have a deep love and respect for those cultures, I am still white. At least on the outside, where, to many, many people, it counts the most. And that is sad because the inside is really where it’s all at. You can look one way on the outside and be someone completely different on the inside. I have to be reminded sometimes (usually by my children) that I’m white. Which is funny. Except not really.

Many of us “whites” have lost our own cultures through the process of assimilation into the American culture. My father’s family came from Poland and France but neither the languages nor any of the traditions that my great grandparents brought with them are remembered or practiced by any member of my family. I know people whose ancestors came from the Middle East or Latin America who see themselves as white now because they can pass as white. And they want that privilege of being white. They want the country club and the big house and the access and the stuff and they don’t care what they have to give up to have it. Some even vote for politicians who create laws that oppress the people with the same racial and cultural backgrounds that they themselves have. And they don’t even realize that they are contributing to the oppression of their own people by giving up who they are to have what they have. My ancestors did this too and I am privileged because of it… but at the cost of losing where I came from and, as a result losing who I am

So yes, many times I am embarrassed to be white: When I read about the atrocities committed here in Hawaii by people who look like me I am embarrassed. When I witness first hand the damage caused to the environment here because of the selfishness and greed of people who look like me, I am embarrassed. When I see white tourists appropriating the Hawaiian culture for their photo ops or enjoyment, I am embarrassed. When I am either ignored or greeted with hostility by people of color when I attempt to speak to them I am embarrassed. I’m embarrassed by that last one but I get it. I get why some people dislike me. People who look like me have been oppressing other peoples for hundreds, if not thousands of years. People who look like me have caused the near extinction of virtually every indigenous people on the face of the Earth. People who look like me have raped this land, poisoned its people and continue to do so because of pure greed. People who look like me continue to benefit at the expense of others and many do horrific things to insure that they continue to benefit and exert their power over others.

There is good reason for me to feel embarrassed for my whiteness; I continue to experience privilege from being white and I most likely will for the rest of my life. I did nothing to earn these privileges and I can’t give them back but I can acknowledge that they exist, I can give back to my brothers and sisters of color with my time, my talents and my resources. I can be an ally to people of color in how I think, how I speak, how I vote and what I do. And I can encourage other people who look like me to do the same. So I encourage you now (whether you look like me or not) to acknowledge the privileges that you benefit from and think about what you can do to be an ally to those who don’t benefit in those same ways.

Sending you much aloha,

Shelly

PS. I know this blog seems random…  one post on Hawaii, then some on energy and one on privilege… I just share what I’m experiencing and if that makes me random, so be it. I hope you’re enjoying my randomness, and if you learn something along the way, that makes me happy. Namaste.

Frequency

It’s Physics Friday (or should that be Phriday??)

Here’s your Physics Lesson of the Day: What is Frequency?

Frequency is a measurable rate of electrical energy that is constant between two points. When there is frequency there is electromagnetic potential. We are being influenced by the magnetic action (or attraction) of the frequencies that surround us each day, and these frequencies influence our state of well-being. Everything has an electrical frequency measured in megahertz.

Remember, essential oils and oil blends with lower frequency ranges tend to work in the physical regions while essential oils with higher frequency ranges tend to work in the emotional and spiritual regions.

I’m going to give you a few oils and their frequencies today… you’re welcome.

rose

Rose has one of the highest frequencies of essential oils. It helps bring balance and harmony with stimulation and uplifting properties that create a sense of well-being and self confidence. Intoxicating and highly romantic. It takes more than 20 lbs of rose petals to make one 5ml bottle of Young Living Rose Essential oil. That’s why most essential oils companies use solvents to extract rose oil; they can get much more “oil” from the same amount of raw material. Young Living uses steam distillation. That’s why Young Living Rose oil is so therapeutic (and why it costs more).

awaken

Awaken helps to bring about inner awareness & awakening. True understanding of one’s self is the first step toward making successful changes and desirable transitions May help to progress to your highest potential. It helps to stimulate right brain creativity and helps to balance the energy centers of the body.

I like to put this one on my crown and third eye chakras while meditating but you can put it on all of the chakras if you like!!

 believe

I don’t have the exact frequency of this baby but I’ll tell you it is one of my new favorite oils! I put this on and I feel like I can do anything!! The strange thing about it though is that when I first bought this oil, I could hardly stand the way it smelled. It sat in my oils drawer because I thought it smelled disgusting. Now I can’t get enough of it! I think this goes to show you that the oils that you need the most to help rebalance you, are sometimes the ones that you are slightly repulsed by… true story.

Anyway, Believe may help assist as you move to a higher level of awareness. It helps restore feelings of hope, making it possible to fully experience health, happiness, and d vitality. As you move past emotional setbacks and barriers, you will be able to reach your true, unlimited potential.

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Beauty

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Have you ever met someone who was so attractive at first glance but then they opened their mouth and all this toxic energy spilled out? I certainly have and I’ve found the opposite to also be true; you meet someone who is outwardly what most would say to be average or below in physical attraction, but their personality and energy is so magnetic that it actually makes them look more beautiful.

It gives new meaning to the old phrase, “Beauty is only skin deep.” Beauty in fact, goes right to your core. Loving yourself and sharing aloha is a great way to spread beautiful energy to everyone around you. And that will make you the most attractive person on Earth!!

Share aloha with myself and others everyday… This is my mantra as I spend my last day in my 40’s and head off to see the adventures that being in my 50’s takes me.

Happy Tuesday beautiful sparking people. Mwah!!

Get Your Chakra On

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Chakra is a Sanskrit word which means a point of energy or power. You have many energy points or centers in your body but there are seven primary chakras that are referred to most often. These are referred to by both their location and by the order of ascent in your body. The higher upwards you travel, the higher the number of the chakra. They are generally described as spinning wheels or vortices of light.

If your chakras are spinning well, they are considered “open” and you’re healthy. When the energy in your chakra slows down or stops, it is considered “closed” or “blocked” and you may show signs of illness in that area. Eventually the whole system suffers as all of the energy in our bodies is connected.

Here’s a quick overview of the 7 chakras:
1st: Root Chakra- This is at the base of your spine, deep within your pelvic area. Many times in yoga this chakra is referred to when discussing “grounding” as it regulates your ability to collect energy from the earth. The colors associated with this chakra are red, black and brown (earthy tones).

2nd: Sacral Chakra- This is in your lower abdomen and sacral area. Many people hold onto pain in this area resulting in lower back pain. Second chakra issues tend to pertain to your community and your perceived place within it, as well as issues of security and safety. It is associated with the color orange.

3rd: Solar Chakra- In your solar plexus, your third chakra carries fireenergy, and is the center of your will and direction. It is associated with the color yellow or light green.

4th: Heart Chakra- In the middle of your chest at heart level, this chakra houses your intent to love and acces unconditional love. It is associated with both pink and green (pink for love and green for healing).

5th: Throat Chakra- This chakra is centered above your clavicle bone in your throat, and houses your intent to create and manifest your dreams as well as to speak your truth. It is associated with a clear bright blue color.

6th: Third-Eye Chakra- This is located about an inch above the bridge of your nose between the eyebrows. It is your highest creative energy center, where your spirit meets creativity. It is associated with the color violet or indigo.

7th: Crown Chakra- This chakra is on the top of your head near where your soft spot was as an infant. It is where you have the intent to receive wisdom and receive your Qi from the universe. It is linked with the color white.

There are many, many essential oils that can help with chakra health. I will be posting some over the next few days on my Instagram feed (follow me @thealohalounge) but you can always GTS (Google That Shit) and find a TON of ideas! Haha

Namaste oily peeps!

Vibes=Vibrational Energy (It’s a Thing)

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Places of worship tend to have calm, peaceful energy.

You’ve heard people talking about “vibes” at one time or another I’m sure. “She has good vibes,” “He has bad vibes”… it really is a thing. Vibes=Vibrational Energy or the frequency at which the energy of a “thing” vibrates (I just have to mention that there really is no such thing as good or bad vibes; it’s all just energy. It’s just our perception that we put on things that makes it good or bad to us). Just to recap… Vibrational energy (or vibes) is the frequency at which a substance is vibrating. And we, at some level, can sense this.

Have you ever been in a certain space and felt calm? Or in another space you feel energized? That is vibrational energy that your body is sensing. Higher vibrational levels can make you feel uplifted while lower ones can have a calming effect. The same with certain foods, or thoughts, or pretty much anything else.

Okey doke… so we’re all clear now- everything is made up of energy and that energy vibrates at different frequencies. These frequencies are measured in megahertz. Just like everything else, essential oils also have vibrational frequencies. Higher frequencies are helpful for emotional work while lower frequencies are beneficial for physical healing. I’m still figuring all this out but I thought it would be fun to take you all along on my super nerdy energy journey. Sound like a plan???

Here we go…

To get you started here’s a quote by Gary Young, founder of Young Living Essential Oils: “Clinical research shows that essential oils have the highest frequency of any natural substance known to man, creating an environment in which disease, bacteria, virus, fungus, etc., cannot live. I believe that the chemistry and frequencies of essential oils have the ability to help man maintain the optimal frequency to the extent that disease cannot exist.”

Want to learn more?
Check out this article about the vibrational frequencies of essential oils. Prepare to have your mind blown.

http://www.biospiritual-energy-healing.com/vibrational-frequency.html

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Eat Good Food

veggies

A great way to boost your energy levels is to increase your consumption of raw organic vegetables. The greener the vegetable, the more nutrients, so vegetables like kale or green or red leaf lettuces are much more nutritious than iceberg lettuce. Cooking diminishes the enzymes and the inherentenergy in your vegetables (it kills them) so eating your veggies raw is best.
Here are some ways to increase your green vegetable intake:

Salads
Juicing
Smoothies
Fermenting
Sprouting
Young Living Multigreens supplement

Fermented vegetables are delicious and have an added benefit of having probiotics. And if you’ve never sprouted your own seeds you need to try it! It’s so easy and pretty cool to watch! We have an easy sprouter (you can buy one on Amazon) which is great and makes it easier to drain and change the water for your sprouts but you can also use a glass jar covered with cheese cloth.

The Multigreens supplement is an easy way to increase your green vegetable intake and to give yourself a boost of energy throughout the day!

Cheers to living foods that give us great energy!! How will you add more veggies to your diet?

multigreens
This supplement supports a healthy circulatory system and boosts vitality! Yum!

Energy

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Sacred Spaces have high energy; a result of the prayers of generations of peoples combining with the energy of the earth.

The focus of these next few posts is going to be energy. As I’ve mentioned before I’ve been reading a bit on quantum physics lately (I know, right?) and it’s been sort of an epiphany.

This is it in a nutshell… everything is made up of energy… you, me, your dog, our thoughts, a banana… all energy. The energy vibrates at different levels depending on what it is (your chair has a different vibration than you do). This gives us an illusion of separation. But here’s the thing- we’re not really separated. We are all bobbing around in the same energy. We are connected by energy!

That’s why are thoughts and words are so powerful- they are also energy. And being energy they have an effect. The effect can be either positive or negative depending on the energy behind the thought or word. This is why changing your thoughts will change your life. To me this is empowering!

Words are Energy
Japanese scientist, Masaru Emoto conducted studies on water where he would have pictures or written words near the water as it underwent the freezing process. These experiments show how our very thoughts can change the structure of water. The words “ugly” and “hate” create deformed ice crystals without structure while words like”joy”
“love,” and “gratitude” can transform the same damaged water so that it will form beautiful crystals. Putting words near water or objects (such as crystals) in the water have been found to alter its energy signature. Since our body is mostly water, this can have an impact on ourselves and our health as well!

Let’s continue our work of self care and self love. Say loving words to yourself daily, diffuse uplifting oils such as Joy, Gratitude, Abundance, Trauma Life or Believe. Write some affirmations down and tape them on the mirror, the refrigerator or in a place where you will see them often. Say them softly to yourself many times. I truly believe that the path to making the world a better place starts within ourselves.

Remember, we are all connected. The peace within us effects everything (and everyone) around us. Inner peace is the start to living a life of aloha (love).

To become a Young Living member check out our About Young Living page or contact me for more information. We would love to help you get started living a more chemical free life!

Meditation

Big Island 2017

Meditation is something that I have done off and on for much of my life and I am really working on adding it as a daily practice. I truly feel that taking time to clear our minds is one of the best things that we can do for ourselves. I think that some people are afraid of meditating. Maybe this is because they think they don’t know how, maybe they feel “bored.” maybe they are just so used to filling every second of their life with busy-ness that the idea of sitting in stillness for 10 minutes completely freaks them out. My own husband is one of these people. He said that he tried meditating before and he felt like he got nothing out of it. To that I say “phooey!” But he still won’t meditate.

Personally I think that meditation is the best way to get in touch with our inner selves and collective conscienceness. But be warned, sometimes the things that we shove down deep come out when we quiet our minds. This can sometimes be painful, but it is a necessary step in recognizing and releasing toxic emotions. You have to let those painful emotions go. If you push them down deep they cause all kinds of havoc.

An awesome way to get meditation into your life is to create some rituals with your meditation time. Put an uplifting essential oil in your diffuser. Make a special oil blend that you can put on your pulse points or chakras (to get you some oily goodness, contact me or check out my About Young Living page). Choose a quiet, comfortable place to sit. Put on some quiet music. Maybe even start with reading a few affirmations. I like to hold some of my favorite quartz crystals while I’m meditating. I feel that their energy helps to clear and focus my mind. Whatever floats your boat people! Just be sure to…

Meditate… it’s what your mind needs.

Do What You Love

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An ancient Hawaiian game at The City of Refuge, Hawaii Island

One way to ensure a joyful life and positive energy flow is to do things that you like. Eat what you like (in moderation), listen to music that makes your soul sing, find activities that you love and do them.

One thing that I’ve finally learned about myself is that I despise going to the gym. It is just a giant energy sucking nightmare for me. I started to think about the kinds of activities I liked to do a child. I realized that most of the things I did as a child were outdoor activities. I rode horses, played outside, swam, danced… Today I prefer activities outside. Thankfully in Hawaii we can be outside pretty much everyday. We even go to yoga classes outside! I realize that most of you live in a place where the weather isn’t so accommodating but you can still go outside (I lived my whole life in Michigan so I know this). Bundle up, take a walk and hug a tree. Connect to the earth!
When you are not enjoying what you’re doing, it is not in vibrational alignment with the real you. When you are joyful, you are in full alignment to the real you. You are filled with source energy. You are at peace. You are full of joy. Maybe you love going to the gym- do it! Maybe you love walking- do that! Whatever it is that makes you feel happy and connected; that’s what you need to do. Fill your life with joyful activities and watch your energy soar! Add some oily goodness in there and watch it soar even more!!

Live aloha change the world